Hi, I’m Wendy, welcome to my little corner of the online world.

I’m one of life’s wanderers and wonderers, sharing my words on life, in all its beautiful glory. I write so the whispers may float off the page and gently touch those who are seeking to hear them, including me.

So, if you’re also interested in doing this thing called life with complete heart and soul, then welcome. It’s not always an easy ride but there’s beauty in all of it, when we’re open to seeing it. 

I hope you enjoy the words.

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The Infinite Grief

Life takes you to depths of pain you never thought possible, and then plunges you deeper still. What once you believed permanent and stable, is torn away like a limb being wrenched from its socket. When you live with a loss that's not finite, that tearing away feels...

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Je Ne Regrette Rien

As Edith Piaf sang, I do not regret anything. Well, what a load of old bullshit that is! Another lie I've been telling myself most of my adult life! Of course, for you, it'll depend on your definition of the word 'regret'. In the sense of wishing to have made a...

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Musings On Perspectives & Truth

A couple of weeks ago, I wrote about surrendering to the ebbs of life. Still experiencing the ebb, I've been doing a lot of reading and reflecting recently. It’s all part of what’s coming next, I know that, so trusting it is easier than it would have been a few years...

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Breaking Up With Tidiness And Order

I’ve been musing a lot on my relationship with tidiness and “order” recently. It’s part of my ongoing unravelling; having believed that tidiness and order is the “right” thing; one of those things that society tells us is how all model citizens live - with tidy and...

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Recommit To Yourself This Summer

I’ve written previously of Summer being the season of abundance, and sitting in my garden recently I could see the abundance of all that has grown this year. But I also noticed the ‘work’ that needs doing, what might be seen as mess, overgrowth, and disorder. I also...

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Surrendering To The Ebbs In Life

"Just the ebb to my flow. The challenge is to be with the ebb and not force the flow." Not long after writing that phrase as part of a message to someone, the truth of the words struck me. The layers of pushing on through, striving, being constantly on the go and...

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Being With Life Through The Energy Of The Seasons

When you look out into nature, you’ll notice that it’s ever changing. Sometimes it’s gentle and calm, and sometimes wild and raging. We see it shifting from the dying to the slow regrowth of life, from bare to abundant, silent to cacophonous. And it does all of this...

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Brave, Or Simply Love?

In the latter half of 2019, I left a well-paid, secure job without another to go to. Reckless, stupid were the words I imagined people were saying about my decision, though no one actually said that to me. Brave was the word that was mostly used. I've pondered, since,...

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Do You Hear It?

Do you hear it? No, not the noise in your head, with jobs to do, wrongs to right, and pains to heal. I mean the beautiful melody of birdsong on an early spring morning. Their hypnotic tune, calling you to listen, to the here, the now. To sit in the quiet, and the...

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Imprints On The World

In conversation with a friend recently, I described my life as having had been whimsical. In the not too distant past, I would have said that in a critical tongue, “no sense of direction, flitting from one thing to another, no idea what you want”, you get the drift....

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How To Create Inner Peace With Four Simple Filters

Are you aware of your inner dialogue? You know, the chatter that goes on inside your head about all sorts – the judgemental, over-thinking, worrying, unkind kind of chatter?   It can be exhausting. It can also create an inner turmoil that if left unattended can become...

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The Simple Pleasures

Walking through the town on a beautiful spring morning. The trickle of the stream flowing slowly alongside me. A bright smile to the person approaching, with an added hello, the world seems completely at peace. The sounds of children giggling in the playground, not a...

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Befriending Fear

I recently spent far too much time googling “what’s the opposite of fear” in my quest to see if there is actually an opposite, or absence, of fear. Why was I curious about it? Well, one of the things I’ve been reflecting on during my personal wintering is the fear...

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Sowing The Seeds of Your Soul, A Fable For Spring

Once upon a time, there lived a beautiful old woman. A dichotomous woman; the darkness of her clothing, slowness of her pace, and stillness of her presence, somewhat contradicted the depth of energy that enveloped everyone around her. She had a softness that belied...

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Resist The Pull Of The New Year Resolutions

Resist the pull of the new year’s resolution. That loud voice calling you to 𝐝𝐨. Something more, something bigger, something better. Instead, stay a while here, in the winter. The slow, the quiet, the reflective. Listen for the whispers. All is as it should be right...

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This Is Soul Connection

As I walk in this place, with no-one around, and as I connect with the nature around me, I feel like I'm in some kind of rain forest. There's a humidity in the air. There's a stillness to the water, and I'm surrounded by trees. The branches, still mostly laden with...

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Preparing for your personal wintering

Whilst the beginning of December marks the start of winter in meteorological terms, I prefer the start of our personal wintering to be marked by the winter solstice, the 21st of December. Winter is the season for slowing down, going inwards, and allowing the process...

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Things Are Rarely As Complicated As We Make Them

Things are rarely as complicated as we make them out to be. They're not necessarily easy, but they're usually not that complex. Most things 'just' require awareness, attention, and focus. We 'just' need to have the conversation, say no, say yes, do the thing... But...

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How to plan your week so you get the important stuff done

Ah, planning. It's taken some stick over the years hasn't it? And my relationship with it (the word and the activity) has certainly shifted in recent years. When you think of the words plan or planning, what do they conjure up for you? What meaning do you give them,...

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Busyness and how to prevent or manage it

I wore the busy-ness badge of honour for many years, unconsciously believing it was a sign of success. Unconsciously believing it was the only way to be, if I wanted to do the work I wanted to do and live the life I wanted to live. This unconscious belief is deeply...

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Time, One Of Our Most Precious Commodities

Time. One of our most precious commodities and yet we squander it like it's a bottomless pit. We give it away to people who don't really care about our best interests, and deprive those who do. Time is a gift not afforded to all of us. Use it wisely. Give it your...

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Time To Take Stock With The Festival Of Lammas

The start of August sees the festival of Lammas, traditionally the start of the first harvest preparations. It's the height of summer, gone are the long sun-soaked days and in their place are shorter, cooler days and we smell the imminence of autumn. The land around...

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Coming back from Covid

Coming back to what though? I’m suggesting there are 3 questions we should be asking ourselves as leaders as we think about what we are coming back to. How do we heal the collective and individual trauma of what we have all experienced? How do we create a culture...

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Self care isn’t all chocolates and flowers

It took me years to admit that I had almost burned out. In fact, I’m still not sure I’m being completely honest about it, I find myself saying I almost burned out when in actual fact, I had. What is it about the words burnout, stress and exhaustion that we don’t take...

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Why your thinking about plans is all wrong!

There's a couple of reasons that our thinking about plans has been all wrong (in my opinion of course) timing definition Let's look at timing first. There’s something that feels right about doing our planning at the time of a new year. It marks the end of one period...

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The dichotomy of structure & flow

Mention the word 'structure' to some people, and they'll reel back as if you've just slapped them around the face with a wet fish! Others, like me, love it to the point of obsession; at least that was me a few years ago. But the opposite of structure - flow, can have...

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Slowing down to speed up

One of my aspirations in running my own business is to get to the point where I can take the whole of winter off and hibernate, or at least do the next best thing, to hideaway in a lodge somewhere, with nothing but nature and books! I’m not there yet, but I have been...

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About My Blogs On Grief & Loss

I used to think that grief was reserved for death. That it was something we ‘did’ for a short while and then ‘got over’. A naïve view, perhaps, in hindsight, but I’d become adept at dealing with setbacks in life and never really thought that grief was anything else...

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Silent Tears

(First written 8th August 2020) I lay in bed alone at night,and cry my silent tears.For the things I've lost,the mistakes I've madeand the things I can't put right. I wake up in the morningwith the weight of my silent tearsbearing heavy on my heart.I rise from bed and...

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A Griever’s Plea

Will you sit with me in my pain, rather than trying to make me feel better with platitudes? For as long as it takes? As hard and as confusing and desperately uncomfortable it may be for us? Will you watch me sob my gut wrenching, ugly, messy tears, without reaching...

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The 5 mistakes I made along my breadwinner journey!

I've been the breadwinner* in our house for the past 20 years but it's only in the past 5ish years that I've recognised the challenges it has brought me, as well as the highs. At that point I started to make some subtle changes to the way I was showing up, both at...

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Axe murderers, lil ol’ ladies and myth busters!

(First written November 2018) Well, whereas one of my previous posts should have come with a BA rating (boobage alert), this one comes with a BTB alert (beware the bias.) Anyhoo, this post will contain much irony, with splatterings of artistic licensing and a good old...

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As Grateful As I Am

As grateful as I am,I don't want just the glimpses, the snippets, the footnotes.I want it all, the whole fucking lot.I want to stare at your face for a lifetime, lose myself in your words, and languish in the depths of your stories.As precious as they are, the moments...

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The Art Of Making Friends

(First written October 2018) A couple of weeks ago, I changed my Facebook profile picture. I think it’s a lovely picture of me and I don’t always think that about photos of me as I’m often captured mid blink which doesn’t show me at my fullest potential! Anyway, this...

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The Day The Pigeon Stopped My Life

(First written April 2019) This post contains mild swearing, elements of anger directed at a small minority of our feathered friends, lots of digression, and some 1970s parenting hilarity! If any of this is likely to offend you, scroll on by! The story starts with me...

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Down By The River

(First written 17th June, 2018) Down by the river today, I cried and cried and cried. For days gone by,the things we've lost,and days that might not come. The longing,the sadness,the hurt and the grief. I cried and criedfor all of that,down by the river today.

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